Shock and Sadness

Today I want to talk about grief. Perhaps it is because I am growing older, but death seems to be coming closer. I was very fortunate to have all four of my grandparents until my mid-thirties. I now have two grandparents surviving, but they are both old and ill. My aunts, uncles and cousins still…

Bereavement and Loss – Part 3 of 7

In this section I will look at how the work of Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross changed how we look at the grieving process. Dr Kübler-Ross, who pioneered methods in the support and counselling of personal trauma, grief and grieving, proposed a model of the five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance).  This is actually…

The Lessons of Grief

Some time ago we received the worst kind of phone call anyone can get. My niece’s 13 month old son had died suddenly and inexplicably. Autopsy results were inconclusive so the ensuing “cause of death” was labeled SIDS. The problem was that no one in the family could believe there was not a valid reason…