My first step in working with a client is to ask for their ‘timeline’. This is basically a chronological account of all the Significant Emotional Events in their life. I personally like people to write this covering all the way from birth onwards as it can help me to detect repeating patterns and get a sense of the person, but in any case the timeline should go back to at least 3 years before symptoms appear. I also need to know the person’s medical diagnosis, if they have one, and a list of any medications they’re taking, or have taken, for the issue. It is also useful to know if they’ve tried other interventions and how helpful – or not – these were.
Once I know which tissue is affected I can work out which brain relay this relates to. From this I can tell which stage they are at in the healing process:
It is then possible to work back to find the initial conflict (2). The length of time from (2) to (4) is the same as that from (4) to (8), and from (4) to (6) is the same as from (6) to (8). For example, a recent client of mine with a recurring condition had experienced a flare-up of symptoms just after Christmas which lasted for 3 weeks. Her symptoms indicated that she was in the second phase of the process and as it had taken 3 weeks for her to go from the shift (4) back to health (8) I knew that her initial trigger had taken place 2×3 weeks previously (ie from (8) back to (4) and then back to (1) ). I was able to ask her what had happened at Christmas that had been a ‘resolution’ for her, and what had happened in the first week of December that had been traumatic. She instantly recalled the incident – on 6th December – meaning that it could then be addressed and the emotion cleared so that her body could heal release the stress and heal.
Writing the timeline in itself can be very healing. As one client said to me, it was amazing to put her life story down on paper and see it all in one place for the first time. This was a kind of affirmation for her that she had, in fact, dealt with a lot in her life and that she was actually stronger than she had realised. It can also be a very cathartic process to put down, in black and white, things that you might have been bottling up inside, or trying to push to the back of your mind. This process helps you to look at things and to acknowledge them so that you can then start to process them in order to let go and to move on.
I often get the feeling that, in our society, we are encouraged to ‘move on’ before we’re ready. As I said earlier, trauma is subjective, so other people might not appreciate the impact that an event has had on a person. They might, with the best of intentions, want to encourage the person to ‘put it all behind them’ or to ‘think positively’ but this is not possible until the person has finished processing what happened. Or perhaps it’s our own inner voice that is encouraging us to push everything under the carpet and carry on as if nothing has happened. However, if we don’t listen to our inner needs, they will just start to get louder in order to be heard!
META-Health teaches great self compassion and understanding. We can truly begin to see that we are doing the best we can with the resources available to us in a given situation. Also, our bodies don’t make mistakes. If we’re experiencing symptoms or discomfort, it’s just our body trying to let us know that something isn’t right, but if we listen and make some changes – meet the needs that are currently unmet – then the body will find its way back to balance and wellbeing again.
So, having identified the trauma, or ‘UDIN’, what next? As part of a consultation I will look at all the layers of a the client’s life: physical, emotional, social and spiritual. I will also consider their characteristics: do they tend to be primarily a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic person, for example. Taking these things into consideration I then put together a suggested plan of action, to discuss with the client, to help them create the healthier, happier life they dream of.
This plan can draw on a range of different therapies depending on what is most appropriate for the person in their particular situation. I personally offer a variety of energy therapies including Reiki / Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT / sometimes referred to as ‘tapping’) along with some nutrition, lifestyle and relaxation techniques and tips. I am very happy to offer these as part of a client’s action plan and for them to continue to work with me if they choose.
In addition I have a wide network of colleagues offering other complementary holistic therapies that we can draw upon to create a full and rounded wellbeing package.
The steps to be taken and the time required to create a new and healthier life will depend on the person, their condition, the circumstances in which they find themselves and their level of commitment. However it doesn’t need to be ‘hard work’ and the journey is in itself something to enjoy and to learn from. It is worth remembering that it has taken time for your body to get into dis-ease and it will take time to get back to wellbeing, but at each step along the way you will see an improvement. This process can also result in lasting change and a whole new perspective, helping you to better deal with any issues that you face in the future.
If you’d like to talk with me about anything I’ve mentioned above, please get in touch:
(This post was taken from my article on META-Health. You can read the full text here)
My journey into working in the field of Wellbeing began when I joined an online course in Evolutionary Enlightenment. This caused me to take a hard look at my life – my career, my direction, my purpose – and question whether or not it was really right for me. The answer was No. I was lost, struggling and unhappy.
Searching for something that would resonate for me and that would support my need to grow, I started learning Reiki which, in a roundabout way, led me back to one of my passions: animals. Horses in particular hold a very special place in my heart. I love supporting owners to explore their horse’s physical and emotional needs.
I went on to study Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques and META-Health because I also love supporting other women who are experiencing similar experiences of stress and overwhelm. I love holding a safe space where they can discover that they have always had choices and the power to make their own decisions.
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