In the last post I talked about the trauma I’d experienced at the announcement of my parents’ plan to get divorced. This was my UDIN (Unexpected trauma that was Dramatic, Isolating and for which I had No coping strategy – point 2 in the diagram below).
Shortly after the announcement, Mum took us to her parents’ house for the weekend to give my Dad space to pack up and move out. I remember ‘running’ around on my crutches and being a bit ‘hyper’ because the stress hormones, adrenaline and cortisol, were pumping round my body as I went from the ‘freeze’ state of shock and into the ‘fight or flight’ state of the stress phase (3).
We then returned home and over the next few weeks life settled down into its new routine. I began to realise that, actually, life was a lot calmer without my Dad around. Also, contrary to the belief of my primitive brain, I had not been ‘cast out from my tribe’. Instead I discovered that my Mum and I had a lot in common and were very close whereas my brother – now the only boy in the household and quite a different personality type – was becoming a bit of an outsider. This realisation was a ‘shift’ for me (4). (It wasn’t quite a resolution as there were still issues going on that continued to trigger my fears (around contact with my Dad) but it was enough to send me into the second phase (5, 6 & 7) ).
If you’ve been following this series of blogs, you might have already begun to suspect what kind of symptoms I then experienced. Earlier I talked about my fears being related to survival and so this was a brain stem issue. This relay relates to various tissues including those responsible for digestion. I mentioned that ” my whole insides rebelled ” and ” I felt that all the stuffing had been knocked out of me”. Also the news of my parents’ divorce came as a complete shock and I couldn’t digest it. All this meant that the organ tissue which held the shock was my intestines and when I went in to regeneration this is where I experienced dis-ease. I began to suffer from IBS and food intolerances as the tissues started to heal.
During the stress phase these tissues had added extra cells in order to better digest the trauma. Now that there had been a shift these extra cells were no longer needed and so the body started to break them down and eliminate them, causing my symptoms of pain, nausea, cramping and diarrhoea.
In my next post, I’ll look at what happened next and how I was able to start the journey back to better health and wellbeing.
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(This post was taken from my article on META-Health. You can read the full text here)
My journey into working in the field of Wellbeing began when I joined an online course in Evolutionary Enlightenment. This caused me to take a hard look at my life – my career, my direction, my purpose – and question whether or not it was really right for me. The answer was No. I was lost, struggling and unhappy.
Searching for something that would resonate for me and that would support my need to grow, I started learning Reiki which, in a roundabout way, led me back to one of my passions: animals. Horses in particular hold a very special place in my heart. I love supporting owners to explore their horse’s physical and emotional needs.
I went on to study Energy Healing, Emotional Freedom Techniques and META-Health because I also love supporting other women who are experiencing similar experiences of stress and overwhelm. I love holding a safe space where they can discover that they have always had choices and the power to make their own decisions.
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