We are all in search of the true purpose of our lives. A few do find it and if it is indeed their true purpose live a life of contentment thereafter. But many who find a purpose which they think is the real one subsequently discover that is not the case. Their contentment and peace also leaves them. So how do we discover our purpose in our lives and know it is the real one?
There is a simple albeit painful method to discover our true purpose in life. This method involves facing reality bravely. As we all know our lives are full of storms that keep blowing all the time. They involve the angry spouse, the death of a loved one, the disease diagnosis, the unexpected losses or the devastating lawsuit. Only their intensities vary from time to time. For very short periods the storms may even subside altogether. But these interludes rarely last long. More are blowing our way soon. Our normal reactions to these is hiding ourselves deep inside our comfort zone and hoping the storms will pass quickly. If we are brave we may even try and strike some blows against the adversaries. But we usually pray that the damage inflicted by the storm on us is not too heavy.
Facing reality involves responding with integrity to these storms without blaming others or trying to force our will on them. We are willing to gently and lovingly let go of our loved one when she has passed or the relationship has outlived its purpose. We are ready to bear the losses and accept austerity till we can come out of it. Thus we are ready to constructively face reality without fear, remorse or blame. When we do this we notice a crucial fact that was hidden from us thus far. Facing reality responsibly involves voluntarily altering our convictions about the meaning of our lives. We discover that our spouse is no longer dependent on us or we do not need that job or celebrity status after all. What we thought as the true purpose of our life is suddenly nowhere to be seen.
Thus the calamities and misfortunes we face responsibly entirely uproot all our illusions regarding the purpose of our lives. But there is one thing that no storm in the outer world can touch. That is our true purpose. Our true purpose is immune to disruption. When we use this method we quickly discover our true purpose.
There is only a single overarching true purpose for entire humanity. That is alleviating the sufferings of other humans, all living beings and our environment. We can lose all our wealth but still make a suffering child laugh. We may have just a few minutes left to live on this earth but we can still speak a few words of hope and encouragement to a suffering human. In fact, except our own death this purpose can never be snatched away from us by any other power on this earth.
When we align our every thought, word and deed with this true purpose, we are forever immersed in peace and contentment!
Born in the rich culture of South India and educated in English, I have been exposed to two opposing world views enabling me to achieve synergy and realize true harmony. I belong to linguistic community “Saurashtra” who were silk weavers patronised by kings of yore. Our ancestors are said to have migrated from Western part of India to Tamil Nadu in the South several centuries ago. Growing up in the country as India underwent its pangs of Westernisation, I was able to synthesise the self oriented Western perspective with the community oriented native one to arrive at a wholesome concept of self after considerable efforts and experimentation. My forthcoming book “Searching for Self – In Pursuit of Inner Peace” is the culmination of this labour.