Hugging and the Need for Touch

Do you miss hugging your friends? It still feels strange to meet up with people that I love and not being able to get close or touch them. But then we have found alternative ways to show our love during these times of pandemic and social distancing.

I still receive lots of hugs from my children, but it’s not the same as a hug from my friends. I miss having a hug from my mum. I miss seeing my mum right now, since my county has moved into the “High Risk” Tier 2 category in England. Mum lives in a “Medium Risk” Tier 1 area just thirty miles away, but I’m not allowed into her house now. We make do with lots of phone calls and we send random What’s App messages with jokes, funny photos, and updates from our daily life, which eases the pain of absence. And I appreciate that some of my friends are missing their parents having lost them either to Covid or other illness.

One method I use at home when alone is my reiki self-healing. Since joining The Reiki Association as a Reiki Master I have worked in distance healing circles with established members of the community, and it feels amazing. Another helpful tool for me is my Naipo massage cushion. I have two of these cushions, gifted to me at different times from Naipo in return for product reviews. One is a throw pillow that you charge up and can use on the sofa or on your favourite chair. This is a good one in the evenings when I am relaxing in front of the TV. My other massage cushion is more structured and can only be used when plugged in to an electrical socket. I use this one at my worktable while I’m using the computer. It helps improve my posture, it warms my body, and it feels wonderful.

And, finally, we don’t always need human touch. Who has a dog or cat at home? I am so thankful to have had my dog, Marley during lockdown. He had only been with us for a couple of months and was still settling in, but one thing Marley loves is cuddles. He buries his face in the crook of my arm, lies across my knee, and we snuggle for ages. The sound of his gentle breathing calms me and I remember that the pandemic won’t last forever. We will hug each other again, one day. Until then, keep smiling and stay safe.



Catherine is the author of the adult paranormal romance series The Redcliffe Novels and also The Darkness of Love, She has short stories published in YA anthologies, freelance articles on various industry websites, and contributes to her personal blog, and her author blog .

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