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Are You Trying Too Hard?

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There is a fine line between effort, which is crucial to achieve health-related or any other goal, and trying TOO hard, which in many cases, has the opposite effect.  In other words, to heal from disease, effort verses “letting go” must be balanced.  As phrased in the spiritual jargon: there must be room for “the universe to pull its tricks”.  That is grace.

Although it’s virtually impossible to define that fine line accurately, given that many people are dealing with the question of effort verses grace in healing processes, and because many people I see feel that they’re putting in a lot of effort with little or no results also causing depletion and exhaustion, I decided to write an article that will give you guidelines to discern between situations where you may be trying too hard, in which case you need to let go and situations in which you may be putting in too little effort, in which case you should try harder.

Underlying Premise

Assuming that we are co-creators, the creative process is a partnership between “us” and “The universe”.  In this partnership, each partner has a specific role.  If to draw from a popular metaphor, In the relationship between effort and grace, grace opens the door- we have to do the work.  Grace gets us into the right classroom, but we have to do the learning.  Admission to the class does not guarantee graduation.  The learning effort must be proportional and appropriate to the goal.  Too much or not enough effort will fail to get the desirable results.

Inventory on Your True Effort

Whether you’re dealing with a health-related or any other type of challenge, the first thing you need to do is evaluate your true effort accurately and honestly.  Sometimes we feel as though we’re putting in a lot of effort but when put to the test we realize that we’re actually not.

Sometimes, instead of putting in real effort, we’re invested in “effort stories” which are a type of alibi that exempt us of the real work required.  For example: people who talk about the nutritional changes they’ve made but when examined closely one realizes that they break the new diet more often than they adhere to it.  It’s crucial that you be honest about your efforts, so you have reliable data.  Without reliable data nothing can change. If you discover that your effort levels are lower than what you thought, you’ll have to buckle up and do better to get results.

Trying Too Hard

Then there are those that try TOO hard.  Trying too hard is depleting and exhausting but the real concern is that when you try too hard, results actually move away.
It’s called the principle of counter-intent. For example: How would you feel if someone was over-enthusiastic about becoming your friend. They called, texted a million times a day, really nagged…  Don’t you suppose that that would turn you off?

How Does One Find Balance?

First of all, it’s important to understand that there are no fixed formulas.  Effort must be gauged to each specific goal and in alignment with each individual’s needs and abilities.  Assuming that you’re honest about your true effort, you need to examine where you are on the graph between trying too hard and not trying hard enough.
Then, you must calibrate yourself to create better balance.

If you’re trying hard but you’re exhausted, or you encounter many obstacles and challenges, you definitely should stop and ask yourself if you’re in the right direction.
Sometimes the universe installs “blockages” which are in fact expressions of grace, put there to direct you to a better route.

Consistency and Diligence

Often, due to our quest for immediate gratifications, we replace consistency, indication of long-term planning with intensity, recruiting big effort for a short period of time
with the intention of getting quicker results.

If you’re dissatisfied with your results you must determine if your efforts are sprint or marathon type and if your effort is consistent for long enough a period of time to determine results or not.

In healing, moderate and slower processes are typically much more effective than intense, high-pace change.  Intensity overloads the system and depletes both physical and emotional energy.  Results are not only disappointing but, in fact, new symptoms can occur as a result of the overload.


As a rule, when we put in effort, the universe reciprocates and does its share.  The universe provides the opportunities needed for manifestation as long as effort is in alignment with our life journey and that it is proportional and focused

Turning points of any kind happen thanks to action.  Action requires effort.  Grace meets us where we put in effort.  With that, we need to remember that we don’t carry the load alone. We are co-creators not creators – we have a partner.  Our actions must create the conditions for grace to happen.  You can’t force grace to occur, you can only allow it to occur.

If you fail to experience grace, I suggest you re-evaluate the focus and intensity of your effort.  Make sure you’re in the right direction, but also make sure you’re open enough for grace to appear because often grace happens in the most unexpected ways.



I am Author of “Messages From The Soul – A Holistic Approach To Healing”, “10 Critical Questions Your Doctor Will (Probably) Not Ask You”, “Beyond Doubt – Unleashing The Healing Power of Self-Esteem”, “Get Your Heart Out of Your Plate – Beat Emotional Eating in 21 Days!” and founder of Unleashing The Healthy-Self Online Program.

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