Disentangling Cords with People We Love

I noted.. somewhere in a past discussion a bit about contracts.  A “contract” is any kind of Truth, or agreement, or operating-program that organises the universe around us.  It can over-ride or under-mine what we consciously and conscientiously are trying to attain.  It can interfere with our “soul path.”.. And sometimes it is an old karmic tie, or a truth or belief we have constructed about the universe, based on our past, personal experiences.  But, it can even be something as minor as the energetic equivalent of leaving a door unlocked, because a friend was stopping by, and then forgetting to lock it later.. or opening a window to clear out the room, fresh air etc, and then a mosquito finds its way in.  Not all “openings” are a sign of dire-predilections.. but  they are good cause to be conscientious, nonetheless: Sometimes energetic cords are intentionally, willfully created- consciously or unconsciously, even with people we love/ love us.

Sometimes, we may opt to allow a cord to be created/connected, and to remain-, either consciously or unconsciously.. But essentially, the bubble should be sacrosanct, and not even god, can enter without permission.  That is how it was taught to me.  and that makes sense.. everyone has equal access to their own source of energy,  from their wiracocha:  the speck of source, or 8th chakra.. above your body, where your individual essence connects with the universal essence,.. sort of.. not sure if other cosmologies have a term for this..

We each source from this place, by birth/being-right.. and we can source from Source/universe, the higher planes/ 5th world.. and from the pure natural elements around us: The sun, fire, the water, the wind/air, Pachamama: the earth under our feet.

In essence there is no real reason someone should need to source from the people around them. And there are ways to help support them without enabling them, and draining ourselves…

If it were me, and someone I knew was sourcing from me, say because they were sick, or “drowning”.. I would gently redirect that cord to a more appropriate source.  In the physical world-level, if it was someone I had a good relationship with, and/ or trusted me.. I might make a point of taking them outside and sitting under a tree, and noting how good it feels to just suck in the sunshine, and feel the earth underneath.. and nudge them into making their own energetic connections while releasing whatever I thought they had attached into my bubble..

Maybe I would try to do this friendly little hang-out  1-2/week for a couple of weeks.. to support that strengthening natural bond.  In this way, I am trying to protect my own boundaries, support someone I care about into a healthier energetic habit, and also having that time that replenishes my own reserves at the same time. 🙂

I might also suggest they have/ do a healing session, depending on how open-minded they were. I might offer to do it myself, depending on the circumstance, or recommend someone I trusted, if that were more appropriate.  If I weren’t a healer, I might consider what I thought would best serve this person in resolving their own energy-crisis.  There are many ways to help someone who is drowning, without letting yourself drown while trying to save them.  Teach them to swim, throw them a rope, call a lifeguard.. Ultimately, each of us must learn how to swim, if we are to safely navigate these Cosmic Waters of Life and Spirit. We may swim alone, or in groups… but by carrying someone along, on our ride, it could carry someone into waters that are too difficult for them to navigate on their own; because there WILL come a point when we either cannot or will not continue to carry someone else.  Also, it deprives them of the opportunity and necessity of swimming on their own.  And that is a lot like the first time a child rides a bike on their own.. that moment when they realise they have gotten it and the sheer exuberant joy of independence, freedom and experience.  By releasing them, with integrity and support, that is the gift we are giving them. Not to mention the difficulty of compromising our own energetic vibration, lowering our resonance as a result of blending with toxic, or compromised energy. Just like the swimmer-lifeguard dynamic.. the swimmer can unintentionally drown their rescuer.  It is also important to know when-what and how much we do, or can do, or should do, before extracting ourselves from what could quickly begin to pose a danger to ourselves.

Any other thoughts on good ways to support others in separating out energetically?  Please share below

 

 

I am an Education Specialist, Health Coach and Author. I work with aspects of the teachings I have learned from Andean shamanic and cosmology, to health, nutrition and education.  Everything is energy. Energy must flow. Like water, when it does not flow, it stagnates and is not healthy. These techniques help your life to flow. I have been initiated into many of the ancient lineages and learned ceremonies, rites of passage and healing techniques.  I have worked as a healer and done workshops and taught some of these aspects – passing the teachings on.

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Dancing in Your Bubble : ancient teaching, modern healing
Natural Support for Alzheimer’s
Getting a Handle on Happy : find and fix causes of stress and depression
The Naturally Smarter Kid : a parent’s guide to helping kids succeed in school and life
Cafe of the Hungry Ghosts : behind the veil of ordinary – a paranormal-ish fiction book

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