Keeping an Open Heart with All We Meet…
‘The more I am able to understand the Spanish conversations around me, the more I realise that everyone is talking about very normal things…’ I said laughingly to Maricarmen … ‘This magical world that is revealing itself to me, is revealing quite normal…’
She laughed ‘Por supeusto… Of course – it would be wonderful if everyone were talking about deep things, can you imagine that…But sadly they are not, it is very normal…’
‘Yes’ I agreed, ‘it would be lovely if people were talking about ‘profundo’ things, but I learnt a long time ago to only ever converse to the level someone wants to converse at, because it destroys connection if we try to go deeper, further than the energy that is there…’
I also learnt that it is important to be very conscious if we feel to say something we perceive within another, unless invited – or to give advice or observations… To always question why we would want to do this; is it a projection? Is it a power trip? Or do we have some need for ‘control’…?
Everything in the universe is a reflection of us, and so the real way to have great dialogues, and deepen relationship is to always be self reflective, always looking at our own lessons, not those of others… Always being conscious of what we are bringing to the space between us and the other, in any dialogue…
Rather than seeking for what we can get…
Part of this naturally occurs in all relating… Two people are always making the conversation up together… They are creating the energy, the magic, the dispute, the normal, the profundo together; there is always a ‘co creation’ going on…
This is built through people reading the signals, taking a step forward, noticing how it is received, stepping back again, waiting or going in further… Great conversation is like an intuitive dance, like the delight of fabulous physical love making… When we are in touch with ourselves to such a level that we can forget ourselves, ‘self consciousness’ goes, because we are conscious within ourselves, which allows for us to be more sensitively in touch with the other if we are invited by another to speak, to be intimate, to share… Or if we invite another to do the same, the landscape is navigated thus, the relationship created, formed, expanded, stuck, deepened or turned away from…
Interaction by interaction, we take steps into the world of another, or invite them into ours… The energy can change in a trice if we notice there is disapproval, disconnection, discord – or on the other hand – harmony, heart opening, happiness growing.
Conversations do not need to be deep for us to connect and create expansive relationship… It is the depth of the conversation with ourselves that counts; being able to stay present and conscious within every breath, every heart beat to who we truly are; and then there is not the need for profundo words.
There is only the need to keep an open heart with all we meet, and to converse in words where the energy naturally harmonises…
I have been running all of my life – it feels I was born to run. In the running step I experienced freedom and my true expression. I came to see that I needed to ‘get out of the way of myself’ and let my energy flow through the running step; allow it to express itself in the dance and the motion of running. I ran for England and GB for some years. My first international was in 1979, a three mile cross country race; and I continued to run at international level until 1993. Two of my best results were first place in the Dublin City Marathon in 1985 and 7th place woman, 3rd British woman in the 1986 London Marathon in a time of 2.36.31, which gained me selection for the Commonwealth Games.As a little girl I ran barefoot for many years, and then I put on shoes to race around the world. Fifty years later I am travelling the world as a nomad with my husband Anadi and I have taken off my shoes and I am running barefoot again….
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