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We are all Evolving…

I am sitting on the terrace of the little white house where I am staying; the October sun is bright and the day unfolding in delicious peace; I have the feeling of Sunday’s past, when there were no shops open and the day was for rest and recuperation, Sunday lunch a family walk in the woods and the Sunday afternoon film…

I am not going to watch a film, or go for a walk in the woods, but the shops closed reminds me of England 50 years ago… The pace of life here is one that seeps through into my own being and I can feel that if I were here for long, the days get shorter and the amount ‘done in them’ far less…

Different people, different situations and places all access different aspects within us, and it is valuable to notice and respond to the different parts having their say, finding their voice…

It is also important that we validate others and resist projecting who they are, or what they are… We are all evolving, changing, opening, closing, discovering, uncovering every single day… To really know ourselves and one another it is important to have a ‘not knowing stance…’ to go into every dialogue, every new day not knowing what it holds… Also to go into it afresh without a projection of who someone will be – or how they will be – as this limits both us and them…

It is simply an orientation, one of open enquiry, and a space without ideas or judgements… Because of course people do often act predictably, so this is about holding the space, rather than allowing ourselves to be duped or manipulated in any way – it is about clarity within ourselves, which opens to new possibility.

I can remember years and years ago, I was nineteen, and I was chatting with a new friend I had met on a running trip… He was twenty five years old and we were talking about divorce – I said… ‘People don’t think so well of divorced people…’

‘Yes the 19 year old me did say these words!

‘I’m divorced’, my new friend announced… ‘Oh oh, I don’t mean I think that, or that I think that about you – I just meant ‘people…”! I valiantly tried to back track…

Anyway, fast forward in my own life, to four divorces later – and I recognised the most important work was to clear any slight shard within me, which might somehow not think well of divorced people!

And of course in particular myself… All the time we think we are giving others permission to do or be something we won’t give ourselves permission to be, or to think, then we are unconsciously blocking the channels of true safe communication…

For it is by accepting ourselves wholly completely, for all our mistakes that we come to truly accept others…

And then we are able to be open to who they truly are in any given moment…

Which can change at any time…

It is a mistake so easy to make, to project onto our friends, partners, children how we expect them to behave; which ironically can create the patterns, and yet we might see our partner or child behaving in a completely different way with someone else…

So as always, it is simply slowing everything down and truly listening both to ourselves and to others…

Later

I am about to go for my second run of the day.

I find running in the mountains harder and so I hatched a plan today to run twice each day and allow a little more ease for my body, rather than trying to go for too much distance… My plan is to run 5 or 6 miles in the morning and 3 or 4 in the evening, which will keep the volume up but in an easier way.

And days are very free… In the week days I have Spanish from 11 – 1, but otherwise my time is my own to write and run and rest in the sun…

nb: I have just read this over on Sunday evening before bed… I did watch a film!

I watched a Spanish film in the name of improving mi Español ?

 

 

 

I have been running all of my life – it feels I was born to run. In the running step I experienced freedom and my true expression. I came to see that I needed to ‘get out of the way of myself’ and let my energy flow through the running step; allow it to express itself in the dance and the motion of running. I ran for England and GB for some years. My first international was in 1979, a three mile cross country race; and I continued to run at international level until 1993. Two of my best results were first place in the Dublin City Marathon in 1985 and 7th place woman, 3rd British woman in the 1986 London Marathon in a time of 2.36.31, which gained me selection for the Commonwealth Games.As a little girl I ran barefoot for many years, and then I put on shoes to race around the world. Fifty years later I am travelling the world as a nomad with my husband Anadi and I have taken off my shoes and I am running barefoot again….Website

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