Understanding Creative Empowerment – Soulfully Connecting

What is creative empowerment, and how does it work? I talk about the three (3.5 technically) essential questions that will empower your life, anyone’s life- in any situation:

Is it authentic?
Is this from my highest self/ for my highest good ( similar but not the same- both should be addressed)
What do I want to DO with this information? How do I use this information/insight to affect change in my life?

These are the tenets that I use re creative empowerment.

Is this authentic ( is it true?)

So your parent/friend/boss/partner says something.. whatever they contribute. It might annoy you, or outright piss you off.. It is important to be able to step back and objectively ask– is this true? it might be, it might not be. often we become most upset in the grey areas: the areas of might-be, and partially-true. Those are usually the times/ moments when we have an emotional-energetic charge. There are many ways to step back and assess. And it is crucial to learn how to disengage in the moment.

But as we learn other coping/ processing tools, we become more effective at disengaging in the moment. There is both the longer term and the immediate moments that need to be addressed. Learning how to slow down and shift away from the knee-jerk reactions is important. Each person will find their own best approaches- from exercise, meditation, yoga, journal work for the longer/ bigger picture. In the immediacy- I have many of my clients work energetically, internally: learning how to visually cut cords, put up a mirror, put down the rope- all energetic visualisations and enactments to change the energy in the moment. But these things can only work when they are used. And they are only used when we have insight and awareness– when we learn to respond, rather than to react. And when we are in defense mode that can be difficult.

Often, when we are engaged in conflict, of varying degrees, we are trying to refute something we don’t like, or that *might* be true, or was true once, and we haven’t come to a final resolution and re-negotiation of this truth. In these instances, it is essential to step into the second step:

Is this information from my highest self?

Is this situation, this reaction– information from me, FOR me. Is this situation providing an opportunity for me to address something that still needs resolution? If so, it is essential to ask- what is my highest self trying to tell me? What is this about?

Is this situation, or this activity, for my highest good?

Is being this person, or continuing this activity, for my highest good? Does this move me forward in life, toward the goals I want to achieve? or toward the person I WANT to be? More often than not, conflicts and struggles are keeping us stuck in the past, old patterns, old emotions and old identities. We are struggling and wrestling with our internal energetics and emotional patterns. We just tend to do that, through the people and environment outside of us, around us. We are drawn toward “wound mates,” people and circumstances that will recreate whatever we have not resolved.

So if there is an underlying truth or belief, say of inferiority, that dynamic will create itself in our work, our relationships, our hobbies and activities. This person will always be looking at someone else, feeling that person is better. Or they will push themselves harder and harder– working against an imaginary “better person”… using the people around them as barometers– and seeing the ones who do better than them, even if they are third out of 1,000. The other 997 won’t matter. It is the two who are better that push them.

Not a healthy motivating force. BUT, when we have the awareness of what is playing out, we have power. We have choices..
You now have the base information to ask the third part of the questions.

What do I want to do with this information?

How do I use this/ these insight(s) to make life changes? Do I need to redefine a relationship? Do I need to remove things or people from my life? if so, how do I go about this? What changes need to be made in order for me to be lined up with who I want to be, and where I want to go?

Most people don’t have these energetic and emotional assessment tools. So they stay stuck in a tug of war with the people around them. They perpetually have the same energetic power struggle.. trying to “win” an unwinnable war. The true war, the inner struggle, is about awareness. And once there is awareness, we simply put down the rope. And when we do this, the other side can no longer yank us around, away from our chosen destinations and states of being.

If someone keeps arguing.. it tends to be an inherent nature to argue back. Likely, it is wired into a biological defense mechanism. To survive, to defend. Somehow we get into arguments with the same biological need to defend and to win, as we would in a true life-threatening attack. In a true attack, there IS a genuine need to protect and defend. But somehow this carries over into all aspects, especially in Western cultures. This plays out most excessively in our team sports. But it also plays out in business. look at the rampant competitive cut-throat culture of Wall Street, high finance and banking, that put the US into a complete economic crash.

But it also plays out in our day to day interactions. From the educational system which fosters the ‘who is better’ based on grades– which is completely grounded in a BIASED and rigged system of selection. All things in our biology have conspired with things in our culture– into a social paradigm that has ingrained in each of us a need to win. to be right… to come out on top of the I’m okay, you’re not okay- “game.” In this Game, there are four possible outcomes. I’m okay, you’re not okay. (what we generally strive for in our clashes). I’m not okay, you’re okay– what we are afraid of. There is also, I’m not okay, you’re not okay AND I’m okay, you’re okay– which is a balance of relationships.

BUT– what about this one.. I’m okay with you being not-okay. In this scenario, there is no need to create agreement or understanding or compromise. “I” no longer need to be the arbiter of “your” understanding, insight or agreement.

When we no longer need to prove we are right, to ourselves, or someone else.. we no longer carry the need to defend and protect. We can simply shrug and walk away. Or simply try to grasp and understand the other person- how and why they have gotten to their place in life– what THEY are trying to accomplish for themselves, or from you/ another person. Or, to just be entertained by the ongoing attempts of others; not by laughing at them or deriding them– but in much the same way we watch a child struggling through a learning process that is essential and necessary. We can watch with a detached curiosity.

In terms of conflicts though, we now hold a different insight. What they say, what they do… we understand that those actions, those behaviours– say more about the person speaking them than they ever did about the person hearing them. So, once you step out of that battle.. and those kinds of battles, it is possible to learn a whole lot: about the people around you, and the world around you.

It is those insights, those shifts in perception and perspective, that put us on the path our highest self is guiding us toward.

I am an Education Specialist, Health Coach and Author. I work with aspects of the teachings I have learned from Andean shamanic and cosmology, to health, nutrition and education. Everything is energy. Energy must flow. Like water, when it does not flow, it stagnates and is not healthy. These techniques help your life to flow. I have been initiated into many of the ancient lineages and learned ceremonies, rites of passage and healing techniques. I have worked as a healer and done workshops and taught some of these aspects – passing the teachings on.

Author of:
Dancing in Your Bubble : ancient teaching, modern healing
Natural Support for Alzheimer’s
Getting a Handle on Happy : find and fix causes of stress and depression
The Naturally Smarter Kid : a parent’s guide to helping kids succeed in school and life
Cafe of the Hungry Ghosts : behind the veil of ordinary – a paranormal-ish fiction book

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