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Love Yourself Enough to Love Others

Julia ChiI was born a Christian… By this I mean I was born into a Christian family, and therefore grew up with the stories from the bible in the Old Testament, and the ones in the New Testament about the life of Jesus Christ…

I belonged to a lively church group from the age of thirteen called ‘The Go Club’.
We met on Fridays for bible study, and on Sunday evenings to sing happy clappy gospel songs at one another’s houses and generally chat and be together…

We also performed in church services and at festivals with dance routines to gospel music; which meant we had to meet up at other times to practice…

I loved it all…

And when I look back I see how fortunate I was in that the leader of us young people – we ranged from 13 to18 – was our curate Dave Eaton…

He was a young man who genuinely cared about us all… He encouraged open dialogue and exploration and didn’t limit us in our curiosity and questioning…

In truth Dave freed me…

He opened us to make our own decisions, to interpret things as we saw it…
He was a wonderful influence in my life…

When I was fifteen I was struggling with OCD and obsessive thoughts… I turned to Dave…

He taught me about transactional analysis and showed me that I was trapped with a harsh critic in my head… a harsh parent voice that needed silencing for me to grow comfortably into adulthood…

This was when I first discovered just how much I was responsible for my own happiness, for my own processes and for looking after my spiritual and emotional health…

Then it came time for boyfriends and sex, and after pouring over the bible to see if Jesus says you shouldn’t ‘do if’ before marriage (I couldn’t find anywhere he did!) I turned to Dave, taking my boyfriend with me…

He and his wife were kind and open with us, and in the end we left, with an understanding that it was for us to make our own choices, and to live our own lives…!

And so I was free…

I left being a practicing Christian, taking with me the essence of what it had given me which has sustained me ever since…

Love others as yourself…

I took this on board as the key message…
Learn to love yourself enough to love others…
Heal every wound, every block to self acceptance…

Clear everything that sabotages, clear every trace of self hatred and self chastisement; silence the voices of not good enough, not worthy, why me…?

Why not you…?

As Marianna Williamson writes

“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.’

And so I recognised way back then, that the biggest commitment to loving and healing others is…

‘Healer heal thyself’….

 

 

I have been running all of my life – it feels I was born to run. In the running step I experienced freedom and my true expression. I came to see that I needed to ‘get out of the way of myself’ and let my energy flow through the running step; allow it to express itself in the dance and the motion of running.  I ran for England and GB for some years. My first international was in 1979, a three mile cross country race; and I continued to run at international level until 1993. Two of my best results were first place in the Dublin City Marathon in 1985 and 7th place woman, 3rd British woman in the 1986 London Marathon in a time of 2.36.31, which gained me selection for the Commonwealth Games.

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