An epidemic that permits us to live in fear, anxiety and guilt. An epidemic that was designed to keep us humble but in actuality keeps us depressed, sad, fearful, worried and angry.
An epidemic that has allowed society to dictate who we are and how we love.
We are suffering from an epidemic absence of self-love.
Sounds really hippie, right? Bear with me.
If you truly loved yourself unconditionally, 100% of the time, here’s what would happen:
- You will never disappoint yourself.
- You will look back with hindsight and realize you did the best you could, in any given moment, with what you had to work with.
- You will allow others to just “be,” knowing that they aren’t smarter, prettier or braver, because you are OK just the way you are and there is no comparison.
- Jealousy will end.
- You’ll stop the endless cycle of self-judgment. You won’t have to hear the little voice saying, “That was stupid,” or “Why did you do that?” or “I wish you were better” ever again.
- When criticism comes your way, it will be a moment for self-reflection: Can I choose differently next time? Is there something I need to fix? and you’ll just do it. Action matters, and action is so much more satisfying than swimming around in your head all day long.
- You’ll never again have to worry that you did something “wrong.” You’ll understand that there is no right or wrong, just your perspective. It’s the only thing you’ve got that’s completely yours. Own it.
- And best of all? You’ll never have to wonder if you are being selfish. “Selfish” means to put the needs of yourself at the expense of others. I’m fairly certain you aren’t withholding food from your loved ones just so you can eat when you are hungry.
Putting yourself first, “selfirst” as I’ve coined it, simply means you consider your role in any situation first.
- They asked me to do __________. How do I feel about that?
- My job is overwhelming. What can I do about it?
- She says I am ___________. Do I need to apologize or simply realize it is her perception?
- My family expects me to ___________. Do I want to? Will it help me enjoy life or add to my frustration?
- My hearts says I’m just not into ____________. Be OK with it, it’s your guidance system.
Make choices from your perspective. Choose what will make you happy. If you must do something out of obligation, be kind to yourself afterward.
No one is going to put you first better than you can. Nobody will love you like you will.
And when you love yourself unconditionally, you will attract more people who love you unconditionally. It’s the law of attraction and it works. Stand up for yourself. Be your best friend.
You are a piece of God, a complete piece of God. God doesn’t make mistakes.
Live in love,
Carrie Beleno is an Intuitive Reiki master/teacher, spiritual leader, inspirational speaker, medium and author.
She received a phone call from an anonymous man from Tibet who told her that she was a “powerful healer” and needed to trust and step fully into that role. Since that call, Carrie has written two books: The Night Yoda Phoned: My Direction From Spirit and Because Yoda Said So: Following Your Intuition.
She also hosts weekly podcast and YouTube episodes entitled, Chaos to Calm: Spiritual Truths That Can Change Your Life.
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It is her mission to help humanity live in love and move from chaos to calm!